Hello! ^-^ Some of you may know me, I'm Kyuru, 37BLM/18WHM. I was wanting some advice on a... rather odd situation I encountered on the server today, and thought you guys would be my best bet for opinions.
I was invited to a party in Crawler's Nest, and then made leader shortly after. The party setup was WHM (me), WHM, NIN, WAR, RDM, MNK. Upon checking the member list, the party was all 35-37 apart from the other WHM who was 39.
So we get into a couple of fights, and I realize my EXP is coming really slowly and in low amounts. I talk to some of the other party members and they all say it's because of the WHM that my EXP is bad. I decide to tell the WHM...
me>> I'm sorry I have to say this, but I'm getting low EXP and a lot of the party members agree that it's because your level's a tad high.
WHM>> So?
me>> I was wondering if you could sit out for a few battles, since I'm only 400 TNL. You can replace me after that. Would you mind?
No response. 5 seconds later, the WHM disbands and warps back to HP. Puzzled, I /tell her a few times, no response. I get a replacement and start EXPing as usual... 5 minutes later...
random1>> Shows you what kind of WHM you are.
me>> Excuse me?
random1>> You asked her to leave when you were the 2nd WHM invited to the party.
me>> Yeah, but I was only 400 TNL. I told her she could replace me after so the party could balance out the EXP. I asked her if she minded, no response and she warped out.
random1>> That doesn't matter. She shouldn't have had to tell you. You were the 2nd WHM invited to the party. If EXP sucked that much for you, you should have left.
Followed by several verbal harassments from random1 and other people from the WHM's LS. I don't know. It would have helped if WHM had told me she wanted to stay rather than disbanding and warping out on the party without saying anything.
Keep in mind that I was seeking for over 4 hours at that time, so leaving wasn't really an option. but I knew the WHM had been invited first, so I offered to leave once I got the 400 EXP. Was I wrong in this situation?
(PS: Once WHM left and we got a SAM 36, we constantly got Chain 4s and 5s. =/ I don't want to criticize anyone though; I'm sure she's an awesome WHM.)